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Never Break It to Him Gently

Synka | Jun 09, 2011 | 0 comments

Breaking hard may always have been hard for you. However, if you’ve never had a break up before, you can save weeks of crying and just get over the predicament quick and easy. There are several strategiesthat I have learned throughout the years. It may leave you feeling rude and domineering, but the fact is, the love or infatuation, is no longer there. You need to call it quits before things get out of hand or before things get more rash than usual.

1. No items required. You do not have to bring flowers or Groomsman gifts if you’re planning to break up with your girlfriend or boyfriend. Remember that you have to hurt the person a little, giving him or her the feeling that you no longer care or that you want to keep it casualbetween the two of you.

Avoid giving the other person some memories of how sweet and good the relationship was. Just come in plain clothes and try so much not to look your best. Physical attraction can be a deadly thing, so even if you feel like hugging him or her, just stay calm and maintain your poise.

2. The decision is final. Take time to contemplate about your reasons for breaking up. However, you do not need to divulge these to your future ex-partner, since he or she may want to debate and try to win you over through conversation. Keep the reasons in your head to help you decide completely that you want out on the relationship. Once you have decided that you want to be alone, the decision is last, so all you need to do is tell the other party.

3. Do not sugar-coat. When telling the other person that you want to separate, never sugar-coat things by trying to make him or her feel better. Breakups will definitely give both of you a slight feeling of worry, loneliness and sadness for a few minutes. Simplytell the other person, “I need to break up with you.” Just be honest with your thoughts and feelings and save that Flask set for your next partner.

4. Leave the scene. Once you have stated what you need to say, just give a few minutes to let the other person absorb the issue, then walk away. The two of you do not need to talk about the situation immediately. Let the other person feel that you are really gone. Accept the fact that both of you will feel some hurt for awhile, but that does not importantlymean that you are a bad person. You just needed to do some tweaking in the relationship.

Even if you intend to be friends with him or her still, that discussion should be saved for another day. Give it a couple of weeks, before talking to the person again to prevent yourself from being sucked in again by kind words and sweet actions. Find something to distractyourself from the pain such as looking for Engraved flasks in a flea market.